today’s shipment was inspired by Facebook status of my friend Prashant, which said this: “The Better You Do, More They Expect”…and this got me thinking. How is it with expectations? Is Prashant’s status update true or not? How should we deal with all those opportunities laying in front of us, in an interactive and connected age we live in? What shall we expect? Are expectations put on us encouraging or it is a burden?
Expectations Are Giving Birth to Disappointment
Two and half years ago, my first mentor Gary told me: “Expectations are giving birth to disappointment.” and he taught me that I should have expectations only and only from myself, no one else and nothing else.
But, we always want and expect more…
Human nature is pretty tricky in the “expectation” sense as we constantly want (or we are encouraged) to want and expect more. Pay rise, promotion, more pairs of shoes, more holiday destinations to visit, more friends to attract into our lives, more adventures, more and more and more…
Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong to have ambitions
It is perfectly OK, if we want to rise and shine in our corners of the world. “Wrongness” comes into play, when we do nothing extraordinary to get there. For example:
- When we are sitting around in the office like everyone else and we are expecting promotion or getting that great contract through…
- When we are not exercising and expecting to be fit and slim…
- When we are not preparing for presentation at all and we expect to get audience boiling with excitement…
- When we are not stretching ourselves out of comfort zones and we expect to reach where those risk takers reached…
Getting the point?
It is time to take responsibility for your life into your own hands
I believe that linking own happiness, feelings and well-being to external factors and situations is pretty lame way how to avoid responsibility for own decisions, actions and life itself. Gary’s lesson gave me answers for most of the disappointment I have faced in my life and it might make you to think about it, too.
So, what “expectations policy”did I apply into my life 2,5 years ago?
I do have the highest expectations from myself: t he way I ship, the way I interact with people, the way I look after myself, the way I give love to myself….All of it is my job!
I do my best when shipping my art and I do my utmost best of the moment I am in. Some people might expect more from me, but honestly it is not my business at all. What plays the most important role for me is, when I close my eyes shortly before I fall asleep and ask myself: “Are you satisfied with your day? Did you fill expectations you set on yourself day before?” , that my answers will be Yes.
So, I would like to take a courtesy to correct the quote from Prashant’s Facebook status to:
The Better You Do, More
they You Expect…
is your set of expectations helping you on your quest or not? Is it a stimulator for your shipping or it works as scary hand-brake? Can you imagine to function without any expectations from others but yourself? Do you already live like that?
Expecting your comments;-)